I keep a notebook in my handbag, an app on my phone, and a Word doc on my desktop just for blog post ideas, and this has been on my computer forever:
Nothing is certain but death and taxes. <Find a home for this line
I’m finding a home for it today (seems timely during tax season).
I keep thinking about certainty and guarantees. The things we want out of life verses the things we are actually given. I think sometimes we set the bar very high with our expectations on what this world has to offer us.
Whenever I imagined myself as a grownup, I always thought I would have a minimum of three kids. There was never a doubt in my mind that at the age of 34, I would have two girls and a boy, a house with a yard, dogs and dog hair everywhere.
I don’t like to face reality often (I mean, who does?) but now that I’m 39, the chances of having multiples are dwindling—certainly not impossible with medical advances, but I want to shift gears because obsessing about something that might never materialize, sets me up for disappointment. Realistically speaking, I would be over the moon with just one healthy baby. Truly.
This morning before Bryan left for work, I asked him to see it with me. A young toddler and a house full of dogs (that much still holds true). Dog hair on the furniture. Chaotic mornings and sleepy Sundays. Pancakes for breakfast, sticky syrup fingers, trips to the park, all of our dogs in tow. It was a beautiful vision and one I want to keep turning to when I feel discouraged by infertility.
The power of visualization can be a very real thing. I neglect it all too often, and I feel as though there are a few of you who could benefit from it as well. Maybe your job situation is in a rut, maybe you don’t know what you’re doing with your life, or you feel STUCK. Welcome to the club, and also, let’s sit in stillness and visualize the life we want to lead.
Today I’d like to encourage you to take five for yourself and for the sake of mental sanity.
What do you see?
Above photo taken in Saugerties, NY, on the most delicious day ever.