Few things in life hurt more than exclusion. I have fought tirelessly against bullying since I grew up and grew a set, frankly, but I’ve been around it all my life. I was always the awkward kid on the playground and in pictures, and in many ways, I am still plagued by my big hair/bigger glasses persona of my youth.
I was reluctant to write this post. I still can’t believe that it actually happened, but it did and I want to speak my truth. Because when I see someone abuse their power online or in real life, it sets something off inside of me. Maybe this is older, more experienced Charlotte fighting back for the little me who never did.
Whatever it is, I am seeing through the bullshit.
I’ve been a member of a certain Facebook group for years and was an active participant in daily discussions. Many of those bloggers I consider to be friends—because you reach a point where IRL and online blends and you start to lean on your blog friends as much as you do the girlfriends you see on a frequent basis.
And that is what happened to me. I looked forward to coffee and catchup with all of these amazing influencers. I enjoyed getting to know them and seeing a glimpse of their lives—their families, their struggles, and their happy moments.
I was kicked out of the group over the weekend because of a personal issue the moderator had with me. I understand her blocking me on Facebook and social media (though I reserve the right to find it completely childish), but banning me from a group I really enjoyed being a member of is what propelled me to not only write this post but to create a Facebook group with two of my bloggy friends Lindsay and Chrissy.
The Peaceful Posse is a Facebook group where online bullying will not be tolerated under any circumstances. We’ll have a daily thread where bloggers can leave their links while also supporting and interacting with their peers. There aren’t many rules, but we ask that all members are kind and supportive. Mean girls and link dumping are not allowed. Basta. We’ll have fun prompts, giveaways, tips about influencer marketing, and ways we can all grow and learn together. I hope to bring some of what I’ve learned about working with advertisers to the group but I’m mostly hoping to make this a collaborative effort. I believe strongly that we can do extraordinary things when we lean on each other and raise each other up.
I expected to feel a lot more sadness than I actually do after seeing that I was banned from this former group. But then I remembered an important lesson I learned recently—the universe always has my back (I hope maybe now the pic I chose to go along with this post is making a bit more sense). Getting rid of bad juju and focusing on the road ahead has really lifted my mood.
I am SO excited about this new group and I hope you’ll come and join us here (eeeep, this means it’s FINALLY LIVE!). Also if you’re not a blogger but have been thinking about writing and getting those creative juices flowing, I’d love to invite you to come sit with us.
Thank you, my sweet ones, and I hope to interact with you more in our new home! XOXO