There was no such thing as social media when I graduated college in 2001 (goodness, when I write it like that it seems like a million years ago!). I remember that exciting time in my life vividly—the college meal plans, the freshmen 15, the friends, the parties, the sweet taste of new freedom, newfound vegetarianism, and signing up for every women’s literature class under the sun. Back then, I was a bright-eyed, bushy tailed (where was the wax when you needed it?! Hey-o! Also, I’m kidding. SHEESH), 21-year-old about to embark on a new career with all the optimism of the world and a very tiny backbone.
I had a good head on my shoulders thankfully, and on most days, hair that wasn’t completely unmanageable.
Naturally I was ready to get out there and date all the men. If you had told me then that one day, we’d all be glued to our phones and we’d check in places and take pictures of our food before eating it, I never would have believed you. Get on a chair and photograph my veggie burger?
Stop your face.
But it’s happening. And as a blogger, there are routine things that even I do that might drive some to drink. I’m ever grateful for an understanding boyfriend who doesn’t mind driving around town looking for a “good wall” or spending 10 minutes trying to perfect an aerial shot of dinner. THE FUCK?!
Yes! These things are happening all around us. Which makes me wonder, how do young couples survive? As the stakes of the influencer marketing game change each year and the trend dictates immediate content that wows and gains followers, I have to imagine that it must be very difficult for a lot of relationships to thrive when there is constantly a camera and a need to edit and share and like and tag.
Here are some things I’ve learned along the way about taking personal pictures or photos for my blog/social media, but I’d love love love to hear from any bloggers about their experiences dating/being in relationships.
Ask permission to check in somewhere. Bryan and I have an unspoken rule about this kind of thing—we very rarely check in because I’m paranoid and don’t like to broadcast my business
Know before you go, especially if you need to take pictures for your blog/social media. I try not to “surprise” my partner with an impromptu photo shoot, especially in the winter when daytime hours are limited
Pack snacks. I can easily recognize the minute Bryan gets low blood pressure and I’ve learned to carry a chia bar around in my handbag for just this moment. If he’s doing me a solid by helping with photography, I’ll offer to pay for lunch or dinner at one of his favorite restaurants. Food = the best form of bribery
Make a date of it. If I need him to take pictures of something for my blog and we’re doing an outdoor shoot and weather permits, we bring the pup and go for a nice long walk, catch up on life, and breathe in the fresh air
Don’t criticize. I really struggle with this though I’ve learned there is a right and a wrong way to ask for help. Also I really don’t you need to post that picture with my three chins, thankyouverymuch. DO: Offer suggestions and possible camera angles that can help your significant other get a better shot.
Have advice to share? Please leave it below!