Maybe it’s just my imagination, but it seems as though there have been a lot of “how to tell you’re really married/in a LTR relationship” articles cropping up all over the place. Some of them are funny, others are insightful, and a few are downright ridiculous (always my favorite, like this gem, which I obviously had to share on my Facebook page). Anyway, it seems as though people are really examining their committed relationships under a new microscope–and finding comfort in knowing that other people are equally distraught by the way their partner stacks the dishwasher.
I get it. Completely. Last week Bryan and I had an epic text exchange about pants from the dry cleaners. I’ll spare you the titillating details.
But lately, I’ve seen a lot of behaviors from couples in committed relationships that’s rubbed me wrong. Let’s take a look and examine some of these things, shall we?
Disrespecting your partner (duh). You know when you tell a joke and there’s that moment after the punch line when you look around the room like Fozzie Bear with your mouth open (“Waka Waka Waka!”) but the noise of silence is deafening? That’s kind of like when you go into explicit details about how much of a f#ck up your partner is or how he/she never listens or whatever your latest gripe might be. There’s a level of respect that should be present at all times. If it’s not there, then perhaps you should do the honors of saving yourself–and your partner—from further humiliation and move on
Referring to your partner as a “ball and chain.” This expression really irritates me. Bryan is as much my proverbial ball and chain as I am his (since we’re committed to each other), but I try not to say this as it’s incredibly insulting and implies that he is a hindrance to the good times in my life. That’s absolutely not true and why would you want to announce that to the world? It’s a common expression I hear men saying about their GFs/wives all the time and it’s rude. No more mas, you guys
Obsessing over relationship goals. Last week I received an email with the headline “How to get your man to propose.” A few things: I have done nearly all the things on that list and still no bling; this came from a woman who hasn’t been in a committed relationship for nearly 10 years; and stop making me feel bad with your stupid newsletters. What’s that expression about opinions and assholes? Let’s stop comparing and/or feeling bad about being in relationships if we’re happy. I’m not saying you shouldn’t WANT those things in a partner, but it shouldn’t be the end-all
Letting stupid things fester. I hate to rock the boat. This is a terrible habit because I will remember sh*t that will blow your mind when the cap comes off and I finally explode. Last week, Bryan did something that bothered me. Instead of internalizing my emotions, I brought them up in a calm manner, we talked, and it was squashed immediately. SO EASY! I’m listing this one here to remind myself that it’s okay to bring up uncomfortable stuff if it helps me move on from something that’s pissing me off in my relationship
Following really stupid advice you see published in lists, like this one 🙂
What’s on your list, friends? Happy Monday, and don’t forget to enter my wooden watch giveaway going on now!