Trying to live in The Now is every bit as impossible as it sounds, at least for those of us in a perpetual state of motion. Last night, I had the opportunity to reconnect with a few old friends at a rather unfortunate event—a wake for a mutual friend’s father. His passing was sudden but the turnout was overwhelming; I’d like to think it was a testament to the mark he clearly left in this world.
I chatted briefly with my friend (and best friend’s partner) who had just lost her father. She reminisced about the happy pieces that clearly left an indelible impact on her life and those “fear of God” moments we are all familiar with from our own childhoods. In that brief period of overwhelming sadness, she laughed as she recollected sneaking about with her siblings and how the floorboards were indication that he was out of his bed and would surely kill them all in an instant if they didn’t go to sleep.
A few of us took turns ribbing our friend about the fact that her foot was in a cast. For anyone who knows her, this may very well be her hell on Earth. Not only is she borrowing an automatic car since she can’t drive her stick, she is also forced to slow down, to rest, and abstain from work.
She asked for help and I told her I’d be happy to teach her what little I myself have learned about meditation.
In the car on the way back, I sat quietly and reflected on the events of the evening. My mind drifted to a conversation my mom had with me many months ago—a topic I was not prepared to deal with then and something I still cannot face now. I discussed it through tears with Bryan and he sat with the heavy for a moment before he spoke.
It was a moment I will remember forever and a conversation I can’t soon forget.
Sometimes in the middle of the chaos, in a moment mostly unremarkable, we are presented with a Polaroid picture of The Now. It doesn’t have to be a happy snapshot, but it’s an important one that teaches us about who we are and how far we’ve come.
Without even trying, I was able to stay in The Now and was perfectly comfortable there.
My friends, I wish you all the best for the weekend ahead. Tell me—what’s on your agenda?