“There’s this dividing line between girls who have had sex, and girls who haven’t. And all of a sudden you realize you’re looking at each other across it.”
Does anyone else remember Angela saying this on My So-Called Life? That line struck a chord with me for many years. Maybe it has to do with the fact that I was a very late bloomer (dear God, I hope those yearbook photos never resurface), or because there was always a part of me that felt socially awkward, but it took me a very long time to feel comfortable enough in my own skin to discuss sex liberally, with partners and best friends. We all need the girls to open to. About the details of a night filled with tequila or the intricacies of what men really like (they always know better than Cosmo).
Today I have the next best thing to sitting in a circle with your girlfriends to discuss techniques: advice and tips from Astroglide’s Sexual Wellness Ambassador, Dr. Yvonne Fulbright. Okay, first of all? That is an awesome title. And second of all, these are some amazing tips that you are getting for free. There’s even a bonus at the end of this post. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
Tip #1: Get to know yourself. It’s hard to express yourself or let a lover know your likes and what you want unless you first take the time for self-exploration. Masturbate. Experiment with different sexual enhancements. Read erotica for inspiration. Flirt with different ways to get turned on, to seduce, and begin the process of foreplay. You will feel more self-assured in providing instruction, even if it’s non-verbal.
Tip #2: Analyze what’s holding you back so that you have a good sense–vs. a general sense–of the barriers you need to overcome in claiming your sexual self and sex life.
Tip #3: Read quality sex manuals. Knowledge is power, so keep yourself educated on techniques, erogenous zones, and modes of seduction to boost your confidence and expand your repertoire of ideas.
Tip #4: Boost your body image. You can start feeling better about your form with regular exercise (as this has mental health perks as well), eating healthy meals, avoiding toxins, and shutting down negative self-talk. Do things that make you feel good about the skin you’re in, like yoga, getting a massage, or wearing clothes that feel like they were made for you.
Do you have any questions you’d like to ask Dr. Yvonne? Just fill out this form on Astroglide’s site. Also, Astroglide is giving away free samples! Just click here to a healthier and happier sex life in 2013!
All opinions expressed herein are entirely my own. This post was sponsored by Astroglide.