Grab a cup of coffee and please welcome the very insightful Vanessa Jones of 100bestdatingsites.com over at My Pixie Blog today. She contacted me some time ago about writing a post for this blog and I’m just sorry I didn’t have the chance to upload this earlier since there is some very useful advice here for couples who may find themselves hitting a wall in their relationship. Thanks again, Vanessa! Also, please come back soon for a recap of my very awesome date last week (swoon).
We all know that life is unpredictable and relationships are complicated. Whether it’s a personal issue or a relational problem, sometimes couples need time apart to figure things out. Taking a break doesn’t mean it’s over and taking time apart to focus on something other than each other can actually benefit your relationship as it forces you to re-energize, re-identify, re-discover, and re-acquaint.
When current circumstances are draining the life out of your relationship, taking a break from it can be just the thing both of you need to re-energize it. Rather than spending your time hashing out fights and disagreements, which neither of you can find a solution for, call a “time out” from the emotional toll and give your mind a mental rest from analyzing anything and everything about the other person. Take some time to focus on yourself and what makes you happy rather than always trying to make someone else happy. After taking care of yourself first, you will likely find that you again have the energy to refocus your attention and efforts on the relationship.
It’s easy to lose yourself in a relationship and begin to identify yourself as so-and-so’s girlfriend rather than an individual. As painful as a “break” from this identity can be, being able to look at yourself as a single person rather than half of a couple can help you rediscover the talents, strengths, and characteristics that are uniquely you. Take this time to get to know yourself again by picking up an old hobby, learning something new, or spending time with friends and family. Remember, relationships work best when both people have something to bring to the table, so it’s important to keep intact the aspects of your identity that probably attracted your partner to you in the first place.
Taking a step back and looking at your significant other as a person rather than your boyfriend can help you to rediscover what you liked about him in the first place. When you are with someone 24/7, it’s easy to get so comfortable that you begin to mistreat, misuse, and take each other for granted. If this is the case, it’s no wonder that you both may need some time apart to learn how to appreciate and respect one another again. So, before jumping back into the relationship, take the time to look at your significant other objectively and rediscover the qualities and characteristics that make him the right person for you.
When you feel an instant connection with someone, it’s easy to begin a relationship that quickly picks up speed. You might have found that you fell hard for someone before you really even got to know too much about them. Taking a break from the relationship forces the both of you to not only spend some time getting to know yourselves, but when the time is right creates a situation where you both have to get to know each other again. Remember, you can never get to know your significant other too well, and taking the time to get reacquainted after a break will help you learn more about one another and strengthen your bond.
This guest post is contributed by Vanessa Jones, who writes on the topics of dating sites. She welcomes your comments at her email Id: firstname.lastname@example.org.