I promised a follow-up post and I totally dropped the ball in getting this to you sooner. Sorry about that. This is traditionally the time of year when I go into hibernation, but I have had something going on every night for the past week and it’s been a little exhausting. But I did try to use whatever down time I had to sort through the muck in my mind. It’s ridiculous what swirls around up there sometimes.
So last we spoke (or last I wrote), I was getting ready for date #2 with the blues musician who lives in town. He called me Sunday afternoon to see if I wanted to grab a bite to eat for dinner so we arranged to meet up at a Middle Eastern restaurant. I was looking forward to it, not only because conversation was effortless with him, but I really did enjoy our first date together. And maybe I wanted a repeat of the steamy evening we had Friday night.
Our second date was just as good as the first. After dinner, I asked if he wanted to come back to my apartment (you know, for tea and crumpets). He obliged; clothes came off. But something just didn’t feel right. I may have been hung up on the fact that he told me his ex wife and kids live around the corner from me or maybe some of the initial physical attraction wore off or maybe I’m a serial dater and will have a hard time settling down… Whatever the reason, it just wasn’t there for me the second time around.
And I kind of hated myself for it. But I also wanted to be as honest with him as possible, especially after what I had been through in my previous relationship. If the situation were reversed, I would prefer a clean break early on. He told me he’d never had anyone break it off on a second date, and especially not while lying naked in bed together. He ran his fingers through my hair, pulled me in close, and told me he didn’t really understand but that he was happy to have met me. It was lovely while it lasted (all of two dates. That might be a new record!) and I sincerely hope to have gained a new friend to go see local live music with.
I am very excited about a date I have tomorrow night with another Match.com guy. I really have a good feeling about this one which means it’s very likely the date will be a total dud and I’ll want to give up on online dating forever. Or until the next phishhead winks at me. Wish me luck!