Online dating advice for my older friends

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I’ll be honest: after a few years out of the dating game, I’m starting to feel a little out of touch. Though I always like to keep my finger on the pulse and love to learn about how people meet each other, it all sounds a bit foreign now. I suppose meeting people on Instagram, Tinder, and Bumble isn’t SO different from the online sites I used to frequent, right? Side note: did you know that there are dating sites for “Ugly Schmucks” and “Mullet Passions”?? I’m not making this stuff up, you guys. Apparently dating has gotten incredibly specific and there’s an app for that. Literally 🙂

The other day I reminisced about the younger version of myself, attempting makeup and dressing to impress my first dates. And the nerves and emotions that followed me to every friggin first date I ever went on (and follow-up dates, sometimes those were harder!). Do you know that I used to wear turtlenecks, because my neck does this thing where I look like I’m having an allergic reaction? That’s always fun to explain in a bar. Anyway, senior dating is hard, but putting yourself out there shouldn’t be impossible.

Here are three ways to eliminate some of the stresses that come along with taking that plunge back into the dating scene.

Properly vet your date. I’m not talking about full background checks (but if you have a connection in the police department, now might be a good time to use it. I’M KIDDING!). What I mean is, make sure your lifestyles are a fit. That there’s some commonality there. And for the love of all things holy, DO NOT let your friend set you up because you’re both single.

Don’t be afraid to open up. Don’t unpack your bags and leave the contents on the table, because that’s awkward for everyone and there aren’t enough margaritas or therapy sessions that would make this a normal scenario, but this is a time to see if there’s a connection. Speak up and let your date into your life, piece by piece.

Not having a good time? LEAVE! There is nothing preventing you from getting up and leaving the damn table if you’re not a good match and the date is quickly going sour. I have been on a few incredibly awkward and painful dates, and I wish I had taken this advice myself, like that asshat who made fun of my career choice for a full hour. NEXT!

For all of my UK friends, there are a wide variety of resources available to help you date Suffolk singles (who knew!). For anyone looking for dating Hertfordshire info, single men in Torquay, and adult dating in general, there are some links for you. The first step is to click, play around and find some matches, and see where it all takes you. Get out of your head and have the best time ever—and who knows. Your first date might lead to a lifetime of forever.

OMG, that was so cheesy.

What I mean is, you’ll never know unless you try! Happy dating, my sweets!

Photo by Anete Lūsiņa on Unsplash

9 Comments… add one
Beth February 8, 2018, 10:51 AM

I am SO out of touch with the dating scene, but I love all these suggestions. I’ll pass it along to my single friends, especially one who has no filter, I think he’d benefit from the advice of sharing, but don’t overshare 😉 XO

Tamara February 8, 2018, 12:01 PM

I’m really out of touch with it myself, but we all hear the horror stories! So I appreciate your tips, because I have many older single friends.

ShootingStarsMag February 8, 2018, 12:10 PM

I’ve never actually tried online dating. I keep being told to do it, but it just seems super awkward. LOL But totally with you on getting up and leaving if it’s just NOT going well…some guy made fun of your career for an hour? How dare he!!

-Lauren

Lisa February 8, 2018, 12:11 PM

I thought it was was scary 16/17 years ago when I tried online dating, I can only imagine it now! On the plus side…I met the guy who I’m still married to from that!

San February 8, 2018, 1:44 PM

While I have met amazing people on the Internet, I am REALLY relieved that I met my husband before social media really became a thing and dating sites became more common. I don’t know, it sounds incredibly stressful to online-date.

Kimberly February 8, 2018, 2:06 PM

I am so glad that I met my husband a million years ago and we are still together. I honestly would not be able to do the dating thing again. I’m watching my sister go through it and OMG. No. Just. Stop it.

Akaleistar February 8, 2018, 6:34 PM

Now I’m intrigued by the “Ugly Schmucks” and “Mullet Passions” dating sites. Lol.

Lecy | A Simpler Grace February 9, 2018, 12:23 PM

This is so good and very relevant since I’m back on the “market” after my divorce. You are right about leaving a date if you aren’t feeling it. I’ve had to do that more times that I’d like to admit. I also have a guy friend who needs to vet all my dates to ensure my safety. He googles them and everything. LOL!

lisa thomson February 13, 2018, 7:33 PM

Great tips, Charlotte. I will share this as I’m certain many of my readers will appreciate this advice for ‘getting back out there’. Not an easy step to take post divorce. Thanks for the info!

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