It’s been difficult to find a balance these past few weeks. With an influx of deadlines, responsibilities, and freelance projects, my life has been pulled in quite a few different directions lately. I’m not complaining; I’m always grateful for the chance to get extra side work (so is my bank account) and I love coming home to a new furry friend (even when she does her hyper dance around the coffee table and demolishes everything in her path). Though my eyes could use a bit of a break from all the small text, the life of an editor is one that I’m accustomed to and it’s a title I’ll proudly carry with me forever.
The other day I had a friend visit me in Hoboken. As the mother of two, she also finds it hard to see her friends with the frequency I’m sure she’d like, but I’m constantly impressed by the amount of effort she puts into all of her friendships. When she listens, she truly hears, and I find myself tucking away bits of wisdom she shares with me for later use. After a brief (but frozen) walk around town, we ducked into a local Italian restaurant where the poor waiter managed to not only spill our entire bottle of Riesling all over the floor, he also slipped and flopped around in it like a fish left out of the water for too long. He was kind enough to replace the bottle; I just hope he didn’t do serious damage to his back!
I also was able to see a girlfriend for drinks the other night at PS 450, a sexy little hot spot tucked away in Murray Hill. Over midnight mojitos, I told her how much I’ve missed her and that we need to continue our tradition of drinking at swanky bars in NYC more often. I meant every word. My friendships mean so much and I don’t want to fail in this department.
I never want to become one of those girls who puts her relationship/life above all else. There IS a way to find a balance, even when it requires a bit of juggling.
This means I can’t say yes to everything. It makes me sad to admit that this will be the first in three years that I’m breaking the tradition of running into the ice cold waters in Long Beach for the Polar Bear dive this Sunday. And I have not visited with my folks since I took in Sandy. I haven’t quite solidified plans with my best friend, but we’re beginning tentative talks about a date now.
Do you have a hard time finding balance for everything? Does it hurt you to say no sometimes?