With all due respect to my married and mom friends out there (both in real life and virtually) I have noticed something recently that I feel needs addressing. Also comments are open and discussion is encouraged; I welcome your input always!
While out shopping recently at a local bodega, I had to bite my tongue as a woman next to me cut me off to put her items on the counter first. The reason I didn’t say anything? She had a small child in tow. Granted, I don’t have children of my own so I can’t say that I intimately understand the frustrations of a mother who simply wants to get out of the store before a minor meltdown, but since when is common decency a thing of the past? Because so many of my friends are parents I have witnessed all kinds of awkward adventures in grocery food shopping, and the last thing I would want is to feel responsible for an episode like that. Despite the fact that I was carrying a very heavy basket, I absolutely would have let her go first had she asked. Do unto others, right?
I had a similar experience just the other day while crossing the street (loaded with bags after errands all over the city). A woman with a stroller accelerated as I was getting ready to cross so she could get there first. Listen, momma, the streets are wide enough to accommodate us both. I happen to live in an incredibly stroller-friendly town (the photo above was taken in Hoboken–I see those wagons everywhere!). I tend to feel like an outcast without a child or puppy. But to race me to the corner just because you have a baby on wheels? Kinda makes you look like a douchebag.
I know this particular point may garner a bit of heat, but I have noticed that women who are pregnant/with children sometimes have liberties the rest of us don’t, mainly in the work environment. If I need to take a half or full day for an appointment, I am always told I need to come in early/stay late to make up the time. But some of my coworkers who leave early to go to parent-teacher conferences or their children’s dentist’s appointments don’t have to follow the same rules. I think that’s unfair. I don’t think preference should be given to one over the other. Many of us have jobs that afford us health care so we should be allowed to take time off and go to those appointments/office visits as needed and make up for that time according to company policy.
*Also, I would just like to add that I am a very proud auntie to many beautiful bundles in my life. That being said, this rant is more of a statement on the parents than it is on the little ones. I hope that much is obvious. I love kids!*
Do you disagree? Do you think this is one of those issues that I’ll understand better when I have my own children? Do you think this post makes ME sound like a douchebag?