plenty of phish

– Posted in: dancin’ fool, dating

Last night I tried to force sleep to my overstimulated brain but I couldn’t stop replaying the events of the final three Phish shows of the year. From the 50 Broadway dancers that made a surprise appearance during the Meatstick and the return of the infamous hot dog to the deafening roar of the crowd and colorful balloons that descended at midnight, Phish had a spectacular run at the Garden. I should be fully recovered by the end of the week.

I feel as though I put a lot of pressure on myself before these shows to find a handsome hippy in the crowd. And maybe it’s because I want to prove to myself that I’m over the ex, but this year in particular, I felt as though I was on a mission. I didn’t want another countdown to pass without a smooch partner and so I danced in the aisles, tried my best to look approachable, and made some sex eyes. Long story short: when you have high expectations, you’ll ultimately wind up feeling disappointed.

Not a way to start off the new year.

But a few awesome things did happen over the course of those three nights. I met one of the guys I’d been talking to from at the NYE show. Though I wanted to randomly grab someone from the crowd to make out with (I’m classy like that), I told him where I was standing and he hung out with me for the third set. Sadly, the chemistry wasn’t there for me but he was lovely and sweet and he gave me a gentle squeeze as the clock struck midnight. I got a phone number from a guy I was very physically attracted to (we were dancing side by side) and we’ve already exchanged emails. And just as I was about to give up on*, I was contacted by three relatively normal guys. One of them even lives in my town, attended the NYE Phish show, and we have tentative plans to meet for drinks. I gotta say, 2011 is looking good so far.

*The reason for this being that I was contacted by a guy who lives in Bumblefuck, PA, who used the words “crusty horse penis” in an email. The context really isn’t relevant. Who does that?

So I didn’t make out with a random stranger at midnight. Is it really that important? I was surrounded by friends and I had a wonderful time. I’m tired of beating myself up because society dictates how I should be living my life (down to who I should be doing and when I should be doing them). It’s that same logic that nearly forced my happily ever after with the wrong person. Thank GOD I didn’t make that mistake then and I refuse to make it now.

Happy 2011 to you all. I hope that you continue to surround yourselves with love and light, good friends, and fine music.

Finally, a very dear bloggy friend of mine named Rachel is trying to get the word out about her fantasy adventure novel. You can read the beginning of her fantastic book for free online here. Enter code DM73S and get 50% off the eBook price. Please tell her Charlotte of My Pixie Blog sent you and don’t forget to wish her a very happy birthday!

19 Comments… add one
Stacy @ Every Little Thing January 4, 2011, 9:33 PM

So excited you had a good time! Also so incredibly jealous you saw that Meatstick in person. ALSO excited about your potential new boy(s).

Can’t wait to meet up this summer! 🙂
.-= Stacy @ Every Little Thing´s last blog ..Blackberry Oat Muffins =-.

keishua January 5, 2011, 9:11 AM

The concert sounds super. The midnight kiss puts a lot of pressure on singles. You should totally not sweat it. You rock and it hardly matters if you kiss someone at midnight. It’s what your doing the rest of the year that matters most. I hope you are having a rocking year and still on a wondrous Phish high.
.-= keishua´s last blog ..Wishcasting Wednesday =-.

a-dawg January 5, 2011, 9:59 AM

glad u had a great time.. love the read!

(Florida) Girl with a New Life January 5, 2011, 11:36 AM

Keep your head up, lady. You are doing great. And just for the record, making out with strangers is a highly overrated experience. 🙂

Kelly January 5, 2011, 11:47 AM

Wow – sounds like you have some guys with potential – good for you! 🙂 No worries about not having a boy to kiss at midnight – It sounds like you had an amazing time anyway!

btw- 50 dancers?! How cool!!!
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..Peanuts picks – Stylin shoes =-.

Bonda84 January 5, 2011, 11:53 AM

Sounds like a good time even if you didn’t get a New Years Smooch. I’m taking it as a good sign that is coming through for you…maybe it will for me, I signed up for one month as a birthday present to myself….although looking at whose been interested so far I do not have high hopes LOL Here’s to 2011, we’ll make it rock!
.-= Bonda84´s last blog ..A Memory to Float On =-.

kimbirdy January 5, 2011, 3:56 PM

um… “crusty horse penis”?! i can’t think of any way that could be relevant when communicating with a prospective new romance. freak! and good for you not letting society tell you anything about your life. there is NO one right way to do things, including relationships and adulthood. i hope you have the BEST year this year!

liz January 5, 2011, 4:39 PM

Hooray for you and a great start to the year! Look at those boys, lining up to see you! 🙂
.-= liz´s last blog ..Many Facets of a Cave Man =-.

Rachel Cotterill January 5, 2011, 6:06 PM

Thanks so much for the shout-out 😀 I hope 2011 brings better news on the dating scene but meanwhile, you keep having fun! I’m going to have to check out this band you’re so hooked on! 🙂

Emily January 5, 2011, 7:05 PM

Ahhh I know the feeling! I gave my number to some loser on NYE just because I felt pressure to find someone, anyone! I myself have decided to take a little break from the pressure. I think it’s better to concentrate on things you love to do, and the rest will just fall into place!
.-= Emily´s last blog ..Five Reasons I Should Probably Stay Home on Friday =-.

Kelly January 6, 2011, 12:58 AM

From what I can tell, EVERYONE on eharmony uses “crusty horse penis” in his emails.

Society’s expectations be damned. Your awesomeness can’t be defined that way. I wish you the very happiest of years this year, my dear. xxoo
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..New Year’s Resolution 1- Broken =-.

Krysten January 6, 2011, 11:16 AM

Just keep having fun. You’ll find someone quality when you’re not looking.
.-= Krysten´s last blog ..2011 Yay! =-.

Date Girl January 6, 2011, 5:38 PM

Crusty horse penis? That is by far the weirdest thing I think I’ve ever heard, but also funny. Hopefully he wasn’t referring to his own junk. Happy New Year to you. And don’t give up on! I met my husband on there. 🙂

Hutch January 6, 2011, 8:27 PM

I’m thinking this just means your 2011 isn’t about random make-outs.

And funny how match always seems to work like that! 🙂
.-= Hutch´s last blog ..Victory Is Mine! =-.

Amalie Paris January 7, 2011, 12:36 AM

Happy 2011!
I have to say, I intentionally avoided men this NYE simply because I didn’t want the year to start off that way. Every time I’ve kissed a guy as the ball dropped, it hasn’t turned out well, and more than anything, I didn’t want to put any kind of emphasis with anyone where it didn’t belong.
I was going to spend this NYE with good friends. Figured guys come and go (for now), but my good friends have been there for me through difficult times. Ended up I got sick and went to sleep three hours early, but my good friend called and left me a message with the countdown and cheer.
I couldn’t have asked for a better start to the year.

tattytiara January 8, 2011, 12:15 AM

I once had a beautiful relationship start the day after what could have been the most romantic night of our lives – on a wooden footbridge in the rockies, on our backs, watching a meteor shower with northern lights on the horizon. Yep, would have been a lovely addition to a perfect evening, that first kiss, but it happened the next night instead, when we were both tired and rumpled after a long car ride home in a thunderstorm instead.
.-= tattytiara´s last blog ..Rhymes with title- only it starts with oh never mind I cant think of anything dirty that ends in itle =-.

Tex In The City January 8, 2011, 2:15 AM

Ha! The words Meatstick and Crusty horse penis made me both giggle and eeeww at the same time! LOL

Happy New Year,
.-= Tex In The City´s last blog ..Jesus take the wheel =-.

SaucyB January 8, 2011, 8:29 AM

I hate New Year’s Eve too. I always feel like everyone else around me has such great plans our evening gets more profoundly lame every year. As for the guy who mentioned a ‘crusty horse penis’ in his correspondance, definitely best run from him like the plague. If that’s what’s happening with his livestock, god only knows what condition his junk is in.

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MiMi March 14, 2011, 11:55 AM

I’m pretty sure that “crusty horse penis” is NEVER okay to use in ANY conversation. UGH! Not even if that’s what you’re talking about. Which is, in and of itself, a problem, ya know?

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